When did thinking about yourself become a bad thing?
When did caring for everyone except yourself become the norm? When did prioritizing yourself become considered as being selfish?
How did minutes become hours, then days, weeks, months… and suddenly, you’re looking back at all the things you promised to do for yourself six months ago, still undone?
Life moves fast—whether you’re on your own, with a partner, or raising a family. The truth is, life doesn’t slow down unless we make it. And too often, the one thing that gets left behind in the rush is you.
Recently, two people came to me with the same realization: they had been putting themselves on the back burner for far too long. They’re caregivers, partners, parents—the glue that holds their lives together. But here’s the thing: glue wears thin when stretched too far. What happens when the responsibility of life and family stacks up, creating a mountain so high you can’t see over it? When the days blur together and you realize there isn’t one hour in your week carved out for yourself?
It’s Time to Reflect
If this feels like your life, now is the time to pause. Reflect. Take a good, honest look at your daily routine. Have the awkward conversation—with yourself, your partner, your family. You’re not asking for permission to abandon your responsibilities; you’re asking for one hour, a few days a week, to take care of you.
And let’s be real: if that one hour makes you healthier—mentally, physically, emotionally—would your loved ones really say no?
I Know It’s Not Easy
I’m not naïve enough to think carving out time for yourself is simple. Life is demanding, and finding time might feel impossible. But start small: aim for 3-4 hours a week. That’s just a fraction of the 168 hours you have.
Here are some ways you can spend that time:
- Go for a walk—alone or with a podcast that makes you laugh.
- Read a book you’ve been meaning to pick up.
- Work on a project you’ve been putting off.
- Pray or meditate to center your mind.
- Head to the gym and move your body.
- Treat yourself to a coffee shop moment.
- Listen to music that makes you feel alive.
- Journal—let your thoughts pour out onto paper.
- Plan your meals for the week so you feel prepared.
- And yes, sometimes, just take a nap.
The Ripple Effect
When you make time for yourself, will anything negative come from it? Of course not. In fact, the ripple effect of prioritizing yourself is nothing short of transformational:
- You’ll have a clearer mind to tackle the day.
- Your body will thank you with better health and strength.
- You’ll show up as a better, more present version of yourself for your loved ones.
You Deserve It
This isn’t about being selfish—it’s about being smart. When you pour into yourself, you’re not just investing in your own well-being. You’re building a stronger foundation for everyone around you.
So, I urge you: be “selfish” with your time. Not because you don’t care about others, but because you care about showing up for them as the best version of yourself. And that starts with giving yourself permission to prioritize YOU.